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My ex moved on so fast. How can I overcome the pain?

08.06.2025 19:02

My ex moved on so fast. How can I overcome the pain?

Simply put, because they have been prepared and you weren't.

On their side, there has been a process of emotionally and mentally checking out while you were still together and while you were under the impression that everything is cool.

This is why you can't expect them to feel anything close to what you're feeling right now, because you and them are on a completely different stage in the healing process.

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This happened long or shortly before they physically left.

I.e. you thought that you had the perfect deal whereas they had already made up their mind and just weren't as emotionally invested in it as you were.

This is why comparing yourself to them in terms of the healing process isn't going to help you in any way, shape or form.

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Instead, focus on taking care of, solving and healing what you are experiencing right now.

What they do doesn't matter and it's completely irrelevant to your healing process, though it’s valid to hate and judge them harshly for leaving the way they did.

And during this process, they either started seeing someone new who they planned to secure as their rebound option or were busy creating their post-breakup plan.

I caught my husband of 20 years looking at inappropriate pics of women on TikTok or Instagram. I'm not sure., but when I told him he got mad and made excuses of why they popped up. I then told him how I've snuck on his phone and saw what he's been looking at . We had a horrible big fight. I asked him why did he even marry me when I see the type he likes . Nothing like me, I'm petite, blonde and blue eyes. These women are dark haired dark eyed and have curvy bodies, large breasts, etc. I just don't feel the same about him after this. I can't get over this

So, don't try to compete with them.

You both are on polar opposites of the scale.